As parents, we tend to put ourselves and our needs last over the needs of our children, families, whoever. It's called "making sacrifices." I think it comes with the territory when you are raising kids. I know for myself, especially when my kids were babies and toddlers, I really did nothing for myself. I was exhausted all the time. I was lucky to get a shower every day. They got exercise every day, but I didn't make the effort for myself besides chasing them around. I'd cook foods that I knew my kids would eat or that were quick, easy, and convenient so that I didn't have to fight with them or I was too tired to make the extra effort to follow a healthier meal plan. I taught them everything I could, played with them, planned fun experiences, made sure they had time with friends. Truthfully, I felt that I had nothing left to give to myself. I always made sure they had what they needed and thought, "I'll worry about myself later. My time will come."
Looking back, this was a big mistake. A happy, healthy mom is better for everyone involved. I realized that when my youngest was two. I hated the way I felt and looked and decided that it was time put myself a little higher on the priority list rather than coming in last. At first, I felt very guilty shoving my kids into a childcare area while I exercised. But then, that time turned into a stress-busting sanctuary for me. Putting myself on the "important list" made me feel better and got me to where I am today. Taking care of myself was important to ensure that I'd be my best for my family and be a good role model to them too.
I still struggle a bit with cooking healthy nutritious meals that my kids will rave about instead of argue with me about. I have to remind them that I am not a restaurant who serves a menu of choices. I'm not putting their tastes first with mac-n-cheese, frozen pizza, and chicken strips like I used to. I hope to change their palates one new recipe at a time and maybe someday, they'll appreciate it.
Is this all selfish? No. Will you feel a bit guilty at first if you aren't used to doing things for yourself? Maybe. I believe that being your best self is a much healthier way to live than coming in last.
